I need your help! I had a pretty easy time potty training my daughter, but my son is giving me grief! You see, I think my two-and-a-half-year-old son is ready to be potty trained, but he doesn’t agree. Let me explain why I think he’s ready…
Over the summer we spent a lot of time in the backyard playing. Most of the time he was naked. And most of the time he would walk to a corner of the backyard pee and come back to play. It was always the same corner! So I figured because he could sense that he was going to pee and went to a specific place to do it that he could probably to the same thing in the toilet. So, in the fall, I started a full blown onslaught of “big boy potty” talk. Lou was talking to him about all the different possibilities of big bog underpants that would be available for his choosing. That got him pretty excited. Then HE started talking about new underpants. I started seeing dollar signs from not having to buy diapers anymore. The future was bright!
One day, while the bathtub was filling up, I decided I would stand him up on a stool in front of the toilet to see if he would pee. Well, he screamed bloody murder while I tried to stand him on the stool. He acted like I was going to flush him! I’m pretty sure I traumatized him. It was just a second or two but he was definitely freaked out. I felt like the worst mom ever. Especially after a “boy mom”, of an order boy, told me that they sit down when they are being potty trained. OK, I had no idea! It makes sense after she explained that the “stream” can get all over the place. Thank goodness for moms helping moms!
I left the issue alone for a while because I felt like a jerk. We didn’t talk about it as often around the house and I definitely didn’t push it. Lou kept up her campaign of how cool “big boy underpants” are. Then my son started to ask to be changed. In fact, he was asking me to get him a “fresh diaper”. I thought about that and was thinking that I should give the potty training a go again but the holidays were coming and I felt like it would be too much going on. So, I left that alone… again.
After the holidays I started to notice that he would do something in his diaper and then immediately run to me and ask for a fresh diaper. When I would change him he would kick and cry. He just hated it! So, I thought this is my chance to try it! I started campaigning. We read books about it, we talked about all the different unders he could wear (for the millionth time), he saw his sister, dad, and mom use a “big boy potty”, we talked about the different potties he could have, and the treats and prizes he could earn. This talk went on for a few weeks. Then, one day, he said he wanted to “go to target and get a potty”. Hooray!
Everybody says you need to wait for them to tell you they’re ready. Well that time had come and I was ready to reclaim my “dollar dollar bills yo” and “carpe” the heck out of this “diem”! Off to target we went with a spring in my step.
Here’s what little Mr. Brady duped me into:
Some super masculine boy unders.
And his reward for using his big boy potty. One M&M each time.
When we got home, he wanted the unders put on immediately. But I waited until after nap. When he woke up, we had a talk about how things would go. “You put on the unders and if you have to pee you go sit down on the potty and call mommy. Then you get an M&M.” He seemed on board with the plan. So we put the unders on, he asked to have his picture taken. I walked him to the bathroom and he sat down on the potty (with the Cars unders on), it revved it’s engine, and he got up and asked for an M&M. I obliged and he was satisfied.
I waited a few more minutes and told him he needed to try again, this time with out his unders on. We went in I showed him how to pull them down then he sat down. This is where he started to panic. There’s, like, a little lip on the seat that’s supposed to stop him from spraying everywhere and that was really making him nervous. He looked down and started to cry. So we got up and when we were pulling up his unders he said he needed a “fresh diaper” and that he was done with the “big boy potty”.
That was last week and I’ve had no improvements since! I don’t “need” him to be potty trained right now, but I would like him to start preschool in the fall and he will need to be potty trained by then. I need your help!
Do you have any tips or tricks? I’ve had book recommendations, and I’ve purchased them and am going to start reading them. Did anybody else have these kinds of troubles? Amy I just pushing the issue and need to stop. Help!
Desperate in Diapers